This was the first meeting of our Discipleship for Men where we discussed Disciplines of a Godly Man chapter 1. Chapter 1 serves as the foundation for the entire book. Hughes explains that godliness does not happen accidentally. A man does not drift into spiritual maturity — he must pursue it intentionally. The Christian life requires effort, training, and commitment, much like physical conditioning.

Using 1 Timothy 4:7–8 (“discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness”), Hughes contrasts trying versus training. Many men want to be better husbands, fathers, and leaders, but wanting alone produces little change. Growth happens when a man develops spiritual habits and practices that consistently shape his character.

The chapter also addresses a common misconception: discipline is not legalism. The goal is not to earn God’s love — Christ has already secured that. Instead, spiritual disciplines position a man to grow closer to God and become the man He calls him to be.

Hughes emphasizes that a godly man takes responsibility for his own spiritual life. He doesn’t rely solely on church services, his wife’s spirituality, or occasional motivation. He pursues God personally and consistently.

Key idea:

A man’s life will always move in the direction of his habits. If he trains himself toward godliness through daily spiritual discipline, his character, leadership, and family life will gradually reflect Christ.

Chapter 1 essentially answers the question:

Before a man can lead his home well, he must first learn to lead himself spiritually.