In Chapter 4, Hughes teaches that a godly man has a primary responsibility to spiritually lead his children. Fatherhood is more than providing financially or maintaining order in the home — it is discipleship. A father is meant to be the main spiritual influence in his children’s lives.

He points to passages like Deuteronomy 6, where fathers are instructed to teach God’s truth diligently in everyday life — not just at church, but at home, during normal routines, conversations, and decisions. Spiritual leadership happens through consistent presence and intentional guidance.

Hughes stresses that children learn more from what a father is than from what he says.

His attitudes, priorities, and relationship with God shape how his children understand faith. If a father’s Christianity is only visible on Sundays, his children will see faith as optional.

The chapter also warns about two common mistakes:

1. Passive fathers who leave spiritual training to the church or their wife
2. Harsh fathers who discipline without love or grace

A godly father balances instruction, affection, correction, and example. He spends time with his children, prays with them, talks about Scripture naturally, and shows patience and forgiveness. His goal is not merely well-behaved children, but children who know and love God.

Main takeaway:

A father’s greatest legacy is not success or possessions — it is raising children who see genuine faith lived out daily in their home.