In Chapter 3, Hughes focuses on how a godly man loves and leads his wife. Marriage is not merely companionship — it is a spiritual responsibility. A husband is called to reflect Christ in the way he treats his wife (Ephesians 5:25), loving her sacrificially, patiently, and intentionally.

Hughes emphasizes that a strong marriage does not happen automatically. Many men provide financially and assume they are fulfilling their role, but biblical leadership requires much more. A godly husband:

1. Initiates spiritual leadership in the home
2. Shows consistent affection and attention
3. Listens and understands his wife
4. Serves rather than dominates

He explains that leadership in marriage is not control or authority for its own sake. Instead, it is servant leadership — putting his wife’s spiritual and emotional well-being ahead of his own comfort.

The chapter also addresses common struggles: busyness, emotional distance, taking a spouse for granted, and neglecting communication. Hughes warns that marriages often weaken not through major conflict but through slow neglect.

A husband’s private spiritual life directly affects his marriage. A man who walks closely with God becomes more patient, humble, and loving, which strengthens the relationship.

Main takeaway:

A godly marriage is built when a man intentionally loves his wife the way Christ loves the church — sacrificially, faithfully, and consistently.